Whether you are sending off applications for jobs or interviewing, dealing with rejection can be hard to take, it’s not only inevitable in life but it’s important in teaching you a skill that will be really powerful.
In this market, it’s been said that you can expect 98 rejections for every 100 jobs you apply for so you are not alone. How you deal with it is what matters. It’s your choice, if you give up you’ve got no chance but if you keep learning from each experience and carry on trying eventually you’ll be the one who gets the job you want.
Firstly, It’s not about you – Its hard, but you can’t take it personally. The final decision is seldom based on what you said or did, assuming of course you did the right prep for your interview. There could have always been an internal candidate in the running for the role, someone with more relevant experience or someone with experience they hadn’t expected.
Get useful feedback – Don’t sit there assuming you did something wrong. Seek out useful feedback if you can get it. Don’t expect to get the full truth back always, recruiters can only tell you what they’ve been told and direct hirers have no responsibility to give you any reasons. Be honest with yourself but if the feedback doesn’t make sense to you then be sure to ignore it and not let it get you down.
Approach each application or interview with a fresh perspective. Be open to new industries and different roles where you could use your skills. Continually tailor your CV and cover letter as you gain more experience and learn from any mistakes so you can avoid making them again.
Don’t talk about past rejections at interview, stay positive and upbeat even if it’s not how you are feeling. No one wants to employ a misery so give yourself the best chance by focusing on being enthusiastic and on what you have to offer.
Don’t spend all your time indulging in your own misery or moaning to your friends and family about rejection. It will just make you feel worse and stop you from moving forward.
Take a break. If constant rejection is getting you down, take a break from your search and focus on something positive to cheer you up. One day won’t make a difference to your search and will help you keep things in perspective.
Handling constant rejection with a positive attitude can be easier said than done but know that if you give up you’ve got no chance and if you didn’t get a job you wanted, chances are it wasn’t the right one for you anyway.